Post by Stacie S on Apr 6, 2003 0:56:32 GMT -5
Today's thought is:
[/size][/color] The quality of a relationship is in direct ratio to
the quality of the selves entering into that
relationship.
--Thomas Howard
People who can be happy and whole when
alone are best prepared for being with others.
If we need relationships in order to feel
worthwhile and complete and special, that's
the same as drinking or drugging to feel
worthwhile.
Helping ourselves naturally feel good can be
hard work. It's easier to create false feelings of
self-esteem by attaching ourselves to a
substance or another person. But once we've
created our own feelings of worth, we can sit
back and enjoy intimate relationships without
fear of being "discovered," abandoned, or lost
in the relationship. These fears can cripple us
in our recovery and destroy the very thing
we're trying to achieve: satisfying intimate
relationships.
If we were giving a fine old piece of silver, we
would first polish away the tarnish. In
recovery we are polishing ourselves by caring
for all parts of ourselves—body, mind and
spirit. Soon we can offer ourselves to another
as the fine and valuable people we are.
Today let me enjoy my relationship with
myself
[/color]the quality of the selves entering into that
relationship.
--Thomas Howard
People who can be happy and whole when
alone are best prepared for being with others.
If we need relationships in order to feel
worthwhile and complete and special, that's
the same as drinking or drugging to feel
worthwhile.
Helping ourselves naturally feel good can be
hard work. It's easier to create false feelings of
self-esteem by attaching ourselves to a
substance or another person. But once we've
created our own feelings of worth, we can sit
back and enjoy intimate relationships without
fear of being "discovered," abandoned, or lost
in the relationship. These fears can cripple us
in our recovery and destroy the very thing
we're trying to achieve: satisfying intimate
relationships.
If we were giving a fine old piece of silver, we
would first polish away the tarnish. In
recovery we are polishing ourselves by caring
for all parts of ourselves—body, mind and
spirit. Soon we can offer ourselves to another
as the fine and valuable people we are.
Today let me enjoy my relationship with
myself